Haters Gunna Hate!

…But How Long is YOUR Recovery Time?

Haters are showing up in unique and interesting ways for me ūüôā ¬†While most would probably get super upset, I actually get a little bit giddy about it. ¬†It is a chance for me to reassess where I am at, and make sure that my boundaries are well defined. ¬†I knew that once I began putting myself out there in a big way, that it was likely they would come, but what I find incredibly interesting is HOW they are arriving. ¬† My awesome haters¬†aren’t coming to criticize my business (at least not yet! lol), they are showing up in a non-related context in which I made one of the¬†least charged and most neutral Facebook comments ever. ¬†It just goes to show that trolls make no sense, and seriously have nothing better to do than hate on people.

Giving that this week’s theme is massive THANKS! I am going to start by thanking my lovely haters and sharing a few awesome tips to deal with them without losing your mind or dignity.

  1. It’s definitely THEM and not you. ¬†This doesn’t mean that you are not responsible for your life actions and repercussions, but that just because someone takes issue with something does not mean it now has to become YOUR issue. ¬†People are highly sensitive nowadays and easily offended. ¬†And most of all they LOVE to assume.
  2. Don’t respond. ¬†It doesn’t matter if what they say is right/wrong/vicious/lies/etc. ¬†It fuels their fire, and give them more power. ¬†That is what they crave. ¬†They want to prove why they are right and you are wrong. ¬†So not worth playing that game!
  3. Turn it around to fuel YOUR fire! Thanks guys! I was debating what to write my blog post on, now I know ūüėČ
  4. Munch on what they had to say, and see if it rings true for you.  There is something to be said for constructive criticism.  Read a few comments, mull on it for a few minutes and see if they A. Understood what you were saying in the first place (likely NO), and B. Have their own naughty agenda.  If they are giving real feedback, then take the time to thank them and move on.

It does not have to be any more complicated than this.  You can let them ruin your day, or you can mull it over and let it go.  How quickly you are able to feel the emotions and move through it will let you know how you are doing on your own personal growth journey.  Thanks haters for bringing me many lovely signs from the Universe today that I am on the right path.

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