Oh, so you think it’s just you…

The last week I’ve really been stretching myself in my business. This looks like pursuing new levels where I have literally no idea what I am doing. I am in the process of learning how to create a digital course/build the course and also figuring out how to create a podcast/launch said podcast.

To some of you this may seem like no sweat! ha. For others you may be scared for me (I know I am!! lol). But here’s what I know:

I have done techie stuff before and succeeded. In fact I just did a little revamp on my website today and figured it alllll out on my own. I didn’t even have to bust out YouTube tutorials!

But here’s what I don’t typically share. These are all thoughts that I’ve had today and the last few days around what I’m up to. Keep in mind that the only difference between us is that I’m able to flip these thoughts almost immediately. Thank God.

My joyful sampling of my thoughts (lol):
OMG what am I doing???
Will people pay me for these prices?
Should I raise my prices?
Should I lower my prices?
She only hired me because she knows me.
Do I have to know people well before they hire me?
Where does the line between friendship and coach blur?
Will she feel I’m worth it?
::panic::
Will people listen to my podcast?
Will I be able to monetize it?
How the eff am I gunna figure this out?
I so wish I could outsource alllll of this.
What exactly is my zone of genius?
Do I just think I have it pegged, or are there more layers that I just haven’t discovered yet?
How the heck do you strip audio from FB lives?
Fuck. Intros and Outros. Ok. I got this.
Money is my friend.

So there we go. lol. A nice little peeksie into my brain. We all have the voices in our heads that can stall us. Trust me, I am VERY aware of mine. I just choose not to let it win. And then I google til I figure things out!!! Or ask my tribe for help.

Sending love to you all on this beautiful Tuesday, and wishing you a very Merry Christmas and Happy Hanukkah.

If any of you have a product or service that you would like to advertise via podcast sponsorship, hollar at me. Or if you are looking to up-level and blast through that silly voice to stay on purpose message me.

Connection is Connection

You’re not going to always align with the people that you love. It hurts my heart to even say it, but it’s the truth. When I live according to my innate and higher self and hold space for the best version of me, sometimes I grow at a more rapid pace than some of the beautiful souls that I know and love- and that’s ok. But for me to stay true to ME I have to let them go and move forward. I have to ‘leave them behind.’

So when this happens I allow myself time to grieve the loss. Because I honestly don’t know if they will choose to rise up and join me. I don’t know if they will step into their power and their truth to live their best lives. And it’s not my job to do it and I surely won’t make them wrong for it. We are all on our own journeys, learning our own lessons for soul growth and abundance. The faster you grow, typically the more souls you leave behind and the more lonely you feel. Thank God I love my own company and hold space for all the amazing souls that the universe will bring my way 💓So take the time you need to mourn. Friendships and romantic love- connection is connection, and all souls are worth honoring. I love you ❤️ #namaste

If you are ready to really uplevel, to step up into your truth, and you need help- reach out.  My specialty is connecting you with your higher self.  I want the best for you, now and always.

Watch Me Process

I’m feeling the edge again. It’s so frequent now you’d think it was every day. It’s like part of me is grasping the edge of a cliff, I’m just dangling.. one hand left on and I have to pull every ounce of my strength and throw my body weight into reaching my other hand up to grab the ledge.

I know I can do it, I want to know what’s up there. What am I giving my everything to? What’s it going to look like? Who is going to be there with me? Where am I? Are we staying or going? Am I alone still? Am I still on this solo journey? Or will my life partner join me? How long is the next leg of the journey? Do I pull myself up over the ledge and then have to climb mountains? Or will I wander into an oasis where I’m drinking piña coladas on my floatie?

Here’s the thing about not knowing- it’s as scary for me as it is exciting.

And sometimes in my hurry to scale the cliff I feel intense frustration and pressure. On myself. If I push too hard- if I don’t honor the rest, I don’t have the strength to make it up and over. It takes me a bit longer. And it hurts my heart. I’m generally ok with however anything turns out, lessons, pain, love.. it’s all a part of the master plan.

But here I am, on the edge every day- stretchinggggg and fuck if I don’t want to just press the button on my jet pack and get straight to that piña colada. But more growth awaits, and I will let it be. Just me and this cliff. Refueling and ready to throw my legs over the edge and roll into the dirt like the badass renegade that I am. Because once I get back up and start walking you’ll see my back, I’ll be wearing a sweet motorcycle jacket and I’ll be leading the way to heaven on earth- and I hope you’ll follow.

Boomerang

Some days the Universe provides for you in ways that profoundly shift and open up who you are for the world. It allows for a glimpse past the now and into your potentiality. Today was one of these days for me. To say that it has been overwhelming and profound is an understatement. I met with a friend today who pointed out areas in which I had profoundly shifted his life, how it opened up his sense of empowerment and excitement, and he shared tools from his 40 year career in consulting to tie together loose ends for me that I had no idea could even be connected. My BEing with him was an awareness shift that simplified and modified my life path- yet solidified the next few steps in my life plan. I have always felt that with my perspective I have great gifts to share with the world. I have always known that I am a part of a massive movement to spread love, authenticity and abundance to the masses. A voice and leader for massive paradigm shifts and revolutionary ideas. A gift for helping others out of their own way and into the light of their truth. Sharing their innate soulful existence with the world. As I throw myself into the slingshot of life, trusting and allowing the Universe/God/Creator/Source to provide for me my gifts unfold. Sometimes I’m so blind to them that I have to be shown by others. My heart is wide open today. The gratitude that I have has literally had me crying for a few hours now. I wish for you all the profound healing that comes with this. For as terrifying as it is for me to be exceptionally bold, fully authentic I am equally as calm, centered and present. My life has entered a level that I cannot explain. Major processing is happening before the continuing evolution of Tatum will be ready to share. I love you. Me

Lifestyle Design

The truth is that you create the life you want. Sure life can throw you a wrench, but you always choose how you respond to any situation that arrives. Like attracts like and you have to take responsibility for YOU. Your thoughts, your energy, who you are- and how you show up for the world.

I have spent the last few years intentionally taking risks to carve out and create the lifestyle that I wanted.

First I moved to a beautiful location with the type of people and vibration that I wanted to be around.

Then, since I had to support myself, I got a job. But not any job. I promised myself that I would never go back to bartending and serving- that I was beneath no one, and would no longer work a job where even though I would make triple the money, I would not allow people treat me as less than. So I got a job that paid little, but was philosophically congruent and allowed me to eat 100% organic.

Then I moved across town so my expenses were less and I had more ‘play money’ to invest into growing myself, learning and working on my projects.

Then I realized that I needed more time for myself to stay grounded- and how essential this was so that I could stay connected to Source and on purpose.

So I cut my hours almost by half. I spent six months with this ‘baby step’ into my dreams. And even with all of this extra time, it became apparent that it was essential for me to up my level of self care and that that was the real key 🔑

And even after all of that- it wasn’t enough. Having one foot in was not enough. And one day I knew what I had to do- and I he hawed about it for another three weeks.

You know when it’s time to step into the life you were meant to have when the life you are in is more uncomfortable than radically changing your entire life.

So I threw it all up in the air- said fuck it- and put notice in at my job.

And here we are 😊 One week since my last day. One week fully on purpose. Three days of intense processing, and four days of bliss and excitement. I’ve gotten more done in four days than in the last four months.

Can’t wait to see what happens next.

It’s Time

There’s no time to waste. You’re probably feeling the pull towards purpose.

The door is closing and we all must step through it towards serving humanity at a higher level.

Create space in your life for magic to happen.

Lightworkers are hearing the call around the world to connect and weave together towards the collective evolution.

We are the wayseers and the leaders of this generation.

It is more uncomfortable and daunting to stay put now because it’s time to soar.

Rise like the eagle you are and accept your god given gifts and move forward.

The time is now. Your time is now.

Inspired action is the name of the game.

Get to the fork- choose the ‘risky’ heart centered way…

that’s the short cut to your truth and your gifts.

Life is a choose your own adventure story for soul growth.

Get in the game.

Haters Gunna Hate!

…But How Long is YOUR Recovery Time?

Haters are showing up in unique and interesting ways for me 🙂  While most would probably get super upset, I actually get a little bit giddy about it.  It is a chance for me to reassess where I am at, and make sure that my boundaries are well defined.  I knew that once I began putting myself out there in a big way, that it was likely they would come, but what I find incredibly interesting is HOW they are arriving.   My awesome haters aren’t coming to criticize my business (at least not yet! lol), they are showing up in a non-related context in which I made one of the least charged and most neutral Facebook comments ever.  It just goes to show that trolls make no sense, and seriously have nothing better to do than hate on people.

Giving that this week’s theme is massive THANKS! I am going to start by thanking my lovely haters and sharing a few awesome tips to deal with them without losing your mind or dignity.

  1. It’s definitely THEM and not you.  This doesn’t mean that you are not responsible for your life actions and repercussions, but that just because someone takes issue with something does not mean it now has to become YOUR issue.  People are highly sensitive nowadays and easily offended.  And most of all they LOVE to assume.
  2. Don’t respond.  It doesn’t matter if what they say is right/wrong/vicious/lies/etc.  It fuels their fire, and give them more power.  That is what they crave.  They want to prove why they are right and you are wrong.  So not worth playing that game!
  3. Turn it around to fuel YOUR fire! Thanks guys! I was debating what to write my blog post on, now I know 😉
  4. Munch on what they had to say, and see if it rings true for you.  There is something to be said for constructive criticism.  Read a few comments, mull on it for a few minutes and see if they A. Understood what you were saying in the first place (likely NO), and B. Have their own naughty agenda.  If they are giving real feedback, then take the time to thank them and move on.

It does not have to be any more complicated than this.  You can let them ruin your day, or you can mull it over and let it go.  How quickly you are able to feel the emotions and move through it will let you know how you are doing on your own personal growth journey.  Thanks haters for bringing me many lovely signs from the Universe today that I am on the right path.

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