For years strangers have been coming up to me and sharing their deepest darkest secrets. They seemed to innately know that I was a safe space to share. Being that I am naturally curious, I listened first and asked questions later. It is an honor and a privilege to hold space for others, but if you are an empath you have to be very aware of your own energy field. Being an empath means that it is very easy for me to pick up on other people’s energy, and even to take it on as my own. This can easily lead to depression and burnout if you aren’t careful. With tools, being an empath can be an amazing blessing, and a way to serve the world in a big way. Here’s what took me a decade to learn:
- Energy is in everything and everyone and is always present. Two big eye openers spurred my growth in this area. The first was meeting a friend who did Reiki. She physically had me put my hand between two of hers so I could feel ONLY the energy between them. This propelled my curiosity enough to learn more about energy healing and eventually learn about cool people like Bruce Lipton, PhD & Dr. Masaru Emoto. The second was watching the film ‘The Celestine Prophecy’. I cannot recommend this film or book enough. They showcase energy within the movie in a way where you can SEE it.
- Fill YOUR cup first. You cannot pour from an empty vessel. Take the time you need to fill your cup. Only you know what that is for you. For me it is spending time in nature, doing guided meditations on YouTube, eating clean, and being around positive like minded people. The more I stay true to me and do these things, the more I am able to serve others and grow myself.
- Hold space without holding on. When my cup is full and I am with others I am able to create a space naturally where others feel safe to share. This space is sacred in that I have to be my most vibrant self to hold that space for them while maintaining and thriving. If you feel yourself taking on their negative emotions, or all of a sudden don’t feel like your vibrant self, then do this…
- Ask the Angels/Spirit Guides for assistance. “Please return any energy that is not mine to where it came from.” Then take a few deep breaths and say Thank You. This alone has made a profound difference in my life. Trust that you are releasing the energy back to it’s source and move forward towards positivity.
It has been a long journey with a lot of growth, and every second has been absolutely worth it to get where I am now. Remember that we are human, and with that leave space for breakdowns as well as breakthroughs. Hopefully these tips will help you in your own growth and empowerment. Feel free to comment and share this to help others as I have been helped.