Top Tips to Thrive as an Empath

For years strangers have been coming up to me and sharing their deepest darkest secrets. They seemed to innately know that I was a safe space to share.  Being that I am naturally curious, I listened first and asked questions later. It is an honor and a privilege to hold space for others, but if you are an empath you have to be very aware of your own energy field.   Being an empath means that it is very easy for me to pick up on other people’s energy, and even to take it on as my own.  This can easily lead to depression and burnout if you aren’t careful.  With tools, being an empath can be an amazing blessing, and a way to serve the world in a big way.  Here’s what took me a decade to learn:

  1. Energy is in everything and everyone and is always present.  Two big eye openers spurred my growth in this area.  The first was meeting a friend who did Reiki.  She physically had me put my hand between two of hers so I could feel ONLY the energy between them.  This propelled my curiosity enough to learn more about energy healing and eventually learn about cool people like Bruce Lipton, PhD & Dr. Masaru Emoto.  The second was watching the film ‘The Celestine Prophecy’.  I cannot recommend this film or book enough.  They showcase energy within the movie in a way where you can SEE it.
  2. Fill YOUR cup first.  You cannot pour from an empty vessel.  Take the time you need to fill your cup.  Only you know what that is for you.  For me it is spending time in nature, doing guided meditations on YouTube, eating clean, and being around positive like minded people.  The more I stay true to me and do these things, the more I am able to serve others and grow myself.
  3.  Hold space without holding on.  When my cup is full and I am with others I am able to create a space naturally where others feel safe to share.  This space is sacred in that I have to be my most vibrant self to hold that space for them while maintaining and thriving.  If you feel yourself taking on their negative emotions, or all of a sudden don’t feel like your vibrant self, then do this…
  4. Ask the Angels/Spirit Guides for assistance.  “Please return any energy that is not mine to where it came from.” Then take a few deep breaths and say Thank You.  This alone has made a profound difference in my life.  Trust that you are releasing the energy back to it’s source and move forward towards positivity.

Take the time you need to fill your cup. Only you know what that is for you.

It has been a long journey with a lot of growth, and every second has been absolutely worth it to get where I am now.  Remember that we are human, and with that leave space for breakdowns as well as breakthroughs.  Hopefully these tips will help you in your own growth and empowerment.  Feel free to comment and share this to help others as I have been helped.

Much love,

Tatum

Haters Gunna Hate!

…But How Long is YOUR Recovery Time?

Haters are showing up in unique and interesting ways for me 🙂  While most would probably get super upset, I actually get a little bit giddy about it.  It is a chance for me to reassess where I am at, and make sure that my boundaries are well defined.  I knew that once I began putting myself out there in a big way, that it was likely they would come, but what I find incredibly interesting is HOW they are arriving.   My awesome haters aren’t coming to criticize my business (at least not yet! lol), they are showing up in a non-related context in which I made one of the least charged and most neutral Facebook comments ever.  It just goes to show that trolls make no sense, and seriously have nothing better to do than hate on people.

Giving that this week’s theme is massive THANKS! I am going to start by thanking my lovely haters and sharing a few awesome tips to deal with them without losing your mind or dignity.

  1. It’s definitely THEM and not you.  This doesn’t mean that you are not responsible for your life actions and repercussions, but that just because someone takes issue with something does not mean it now has to become YOUR issue.  People are highly sensitive nowadays and easily offended.  And most of all they LOVE to assume.
  2. Don’t respond.  It doesn’t matter if what they say is right/wrong/vicious/lies/etc.  It fuels their fire, and give them more power.  That is what they crave.  They want to prove why they are right and you are wrong.  So not worth playing that game!
  3. Turn it around to fuel YOUR fire! Thanks guys! I was debating what to write my blog post on, now I know 😉
  4. Munch on what they had to say, and see if it rings true for you.  There is something to be said for constructive criticism.  Read a few comments, mull on it for a few minutes and see if they A. Understood what you were saying in the first place (likely NO), and B. Have their own naughty agenda.  If they are giving real feedback, then take the time to thank them and move on.

It does not have to be any more complicated than this.  You can let them ruin your day, or you can mull it over and let it go.  How quickly you are able to feel the emotions and move through it will let you know how you are doing on your own personal growth journey.  Thanks haters for bringing me many lovely signs from the Universe today that I am on the right path.

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11/11 Manifestation & Abundance

Hello my loves!

I am absolutely stoked to be writing to you today about 1111! As some of you may know, today is HUGE for humanity! This is a new moon in Scorpio, and coincides with the magical numbers 11/11. I am not going to pretend that I know heaps about astrology, numerology and the cosmos, but I do love to read about it and watch videos. What I do know to be true is that I have felt the energies and shifts coming for awhile now. Today is a very big day for manifesting the abundance that you truly desire in life. This could be anything from bringing in your Twin Flame to manifesting wealth (whatever this means for you!)

The Universe always provides and all you have to do is let go and allow the Universe to flow through you.  This can be much easier said than done, but luckily today it should be easier than other days.  One of the easy ways that I let go is through Meditation (I highly recommend Guided Meditations on YouTube by Michael A. Jacobs).  If difficult emotions come up for me I tend to write.  Then I go to my room, maybe light some sage and have quiet time.  I write out everything that I am feeling, acknowledge it, and then burn it.  I allow it to release into the Universe.

Letting go is such an important part of manifestation- you must close the door to the past to move through and towards the future.  Once you have taken time to heal and put the past in the past (where it belongs!), then you are ready to manifest.  Only you truly know what works for you.  If you are new to learning about the Law of Attraction then trial out different ways to see what works for you.  I plan on spending a nice chunk of time today writing out exactly what I would like for my future.

It is also important to take time to say Thank YOU! Not just because it is Thanksgiving month, but gratitude acknowledges the role that the Universe has played in your life and opens up doors/windows towards more abundance.  Stay open to receiving and allow for surprises 🙂

In honor of gratitude, I would like to thank one of my biggest supporters and an amazing friend Albert Qian.  I have attached audio from our Blab interview below.

Thank you all for joining me on this journey of self discovery and creation.

Love,

Tatum

Welcome to Uniquely Tatum!

Hi Loves!

As you may have guessed from the content on my site, what you see is what you get.  I am 100% authentic to who I am and my truth! I am an artist, lover, writer, editor, coach and entrepreneur. Of course this is just a tiny hint of the true essence of who I am, just like any label or description is for you as well.  If any of you are familiar with Landmark Education (which is AMAZING!) then you may know this special phrasing for who you declare yourself to be:

Who I am is the possibility of Love, Acceptance & Inspiration, and that is WHO I am!

It is my aim to always be my most vibrant, positive, happy self.  Because I actively choose to create this every day, I am blessed with an incredible life.  Like any human, I still have shitty days.. but the good news is that I know it is all a reflection of perception and energy.  Keep being awesome and I look forward to sharing, growing and loving with you!

<3

Tatum